Yes, I'm talking To YOU

Peace yall, I have been on hiatus consdering my sleep pattern I thought I had under control, but yet I still cannot function without a split (5 hours in day 3 in the afternoon. I know its been awhile, but good things come to those who wait, so if you were patient, then good, the rest of yall...exactly.

So before I get into my life and what's poppin with me, I just want to say much love to Bill Cosby for coming to the 413 and basically speaking your mind to all who chose to listen. Although right now you done made things hot for you, I feel that us brothers are in need of tough love, so in respect, allow me to throw my two cents in...

I hate to say this, but fellas, we are no longer the dominant species we once thought we were. Our stock in good men has gone down drastically, were filling up jails like housing projects, and for some strange reason, can't stay off the Maury show (amongst others). I don't know what the deal is with some of yall, but to the ones I know, allow me to shed some light on the situations that bother me...

First things first fellas, if you think that there is a problem with your girl only when there is another one in your face willing to do something she wouldn't, chances are, your dumb ass will roll the dice and play the mack game. Understand that this game you play requires double the work, in a lot of cases, double the funds too, while yall are playing spades with your crew, talking shit about how you playing your girl with the big booty chick up the street, we laughing at you all the way to the clinic son, there's nothing more stupid than playing your girl with jump-off thats a jump down, too many times when you get caught the main thing your now EX girl is saying is "The bitch could have looked better than me or something". Which puts you at a double loss because no matter how much booty and brain you was getting you will always be known as the asshole who fucked that ugly bitch over the fine ass girl you had....and got caught. Be easy, learn how to talk to your woman. After all, you had to use some type of game to get your girl in the first place right? Take the same energy, and straighten out your problems. Don't be lazy...speaking of which...
2nd thing, we have to stop being lazy, it seems like yall dudes are taking the easy way out a little too much, them days of finding someone to kiss your ass because you got green eyes, or a nice physique were gone long before Beyonce was telling you how independant she is. If you find yourself making plans off your womans check, chances are, you are a fucking bum, 2nd level bum because you have a roof over your head, but a bum nonetheless. Women (especially black women) hate a do nothing dude. Even if they are a do nothing woman, still they can't stand a man who don't do nothing. As if they aren't the champs at sitting home complaining (ladies don't get mad at me) the last thing they need is you to try and top them in that department. You don't want to hear shit? Work 8 hours a day, make some money, invest, think about your future (or your childs) and maybe, just maybe your woman won't have that much shit to talk about. The kids just might start respecting you. You just might start respecting yourself. Stop being a spoiled ass, if anything, take a good look at yourself and whats around you cause chances are, 5 years from now it won't be there anymore.
3rd Stop Lying to yourselves, there's nothing I hate more than seeing you bastards go on national tv and act like you're talking to your boy at the card table. Get over yourselves, ain't no little kid praising no player without a pimp cup feel me? Too many times I see your asses talking that shit like you all that in front of your girl, then pull some grimy shit and still try to play the role like you all that in front of the type of audience that will give you absolutely no chance on clearing yourself. Then again ladies, I put you at fault too because its yall who call these shows for reasons I do not know or wish to know, but this ain't about you. Look yall, if you love your woman, then love your woman. I respect your game a lot more when you are true to your feelings. Half of yall get caught because you lie to your boys about your dirt, and you know after your woman done exhausted all chances of getting info from her girlfriends her next stop is your crew, and God help your ass if any one of them are the sensitive type, cause they can and will break, and if your shit ain't straight, thanks in part to being lazy as all hell, then you are fucked, and its your own fault. Be real, you be surprised how much respect is gained, even if you're an asshole what follows can be as interesting as (..but he is cute though, or ...I will tame him) Did we forget the challenge in our women? I think so. When it comes to seeking dirt about us, the challenge in our women is about eqivalent to the Bulls before and after Jordan's comeback. Be honest with your feelings, don't put yourself out there, but stay in touch with the way you really feel. No one should be able to deter you from what you desire, yet they shouldn't have enough power to make you change your mind cause of what THEY feel. That's what keeping it real is all about.
Four? If you are good, stay good. Man I don't know how many times I see brothers who have taken the high road and got knocked down by a female who didn't fit the bill with being on his level, only to see him lower himself to that chicken he said he'll never mess with, get her pregnant and deny her simply because he's been through too much as a good dude. Yes I do blame us for being that weak minded, but yet, its what happens. Stop thinking that a fucking pimp cup defines what a player is. Or that rims with spinners (even fake ones) constitute as a right of passage to the wonderful world of big ballin. Get over that, if you have no kids, work a good job, only go to the strip club when your boy is the one with the problems, haven't cheated on your woman, treat your moms with respect, and take care of you and yours, guess what...you are not doing anything wrong, your street cred has not dropped, and your stock done went through the roof..thing is, you'll never know it, the way that the world is going now, guys like us are the last of a dying breed. We too much dwell in the lifestyle where "big pimpin'" is the new future for us, sorry but that shit played itself out a long time ago. Yet, we still have that mentality that as long as we have the toys necessary for the women to play with we can be "cool" only forgetting that when those toys disappear so do the women, if not, then you become the toy. Like kids, once that toy becomes boring to play with, it either becomes broke, or not played with at all. Do your thing, do it right, and you shouldn't walk away feeling like something YOU did was wrong. I made that mistake a few times. Each time I treated that person like I would every other one, with respect, admiration, love and loyalty. When I got dumped, I looked for reasons why, and I blamed myself, without any reason to back up the blame, when I asked why, I never got an answer, just some bullshit like "I didn't deserve someone like you, or "It wasn't you, it was me" Shit we've heard before, translation: "I did some dirt that I wasn't woman enough to come and bring to you out of honesty, so instead I have to feed you some bullshit to ponder while I make my life with someone else, don't worry though, I'll be fine, you? Just get over me, in time you will see that I'm not worth it." That's what it comes down to, yet we are just as bad with trying to so-call protect our woman's feelings by lying and being selfish in our ways. Which causes long term stress and pain trying to accomplish painting the "big picture". If you're good, stay good, you will be rewarded with self worth because YOU know that what you're doing does not put anyone in danger or at risk, it's how they accept and give back to you that lets you know if you're appreciated. Don't let any chicken get you down, because if you do, then you're one step conforming to being that cat you despise.
Five, to the dogs out there, let this be a quick one, I'm not hating on you, without yall there wouldn't be people like me, keep doing what you're doing, you're getting dumber as the years go by, causing me to learn from your mistakes, for those who have affected my life in your own little ways, good job, you got over, you got the girl, to the girl, good job, you got someone, good luck in the long run, more power to you, when you get married and stuff, send me a invite so I have something to laugh about, just don't be the one to have a change of heart when its yours doing the breaking, have some fucking pride, after all, you sure as hell did when you were out doing your thing while still fucking with me. For you cats that see what I'm saying, then you know where I'm going with this, true playas don't hate, they motivate, so there is the motivation. I don't need to hate on anyone, so I don't. For those that hated on me to gain some type of attention from my lady, if you got her then you played the game right, then again, if she was that weak enough to leave a good thing, what makes you think by dry snitchin' and playing the "friend" she ain't going to leave your ass for something worse than you? Well you don't care cause you have backup B and C right? Just do me a favor, don't go Ike Turner on her cause she one-upped you on the game, just call it a wrap and move B to A and find a new C.
Please stop killing each other over OPP, even though that is so 91' there is nothing I can't stand more than a dude killing another over someone who ain't even got a ring on their finger. Get over it, if she leaves with someone else at the club, mall , church, barbeque, etc. etc. etc. guess what? SHE AIN'T WORTH DYING OVER. Unless she got a gun to her head, she gon' do what she wants whether you like it or not, dare you to give a damn, and if you decide to go tough guy, won't hesitate to sic her new prospect on you. Give it a rest, shit don't even take it as a loss on your part, you may not get any that night, but you have the rest of your life to handle your business.
Once again let me say that this is not a game to me anymore, I am not pointing fingers, just stating the obivous, we are falling off, sad but true. I know I said that I'm not as responsive to other females and their bullshit, but I didn't say that I will become an asshole, dog, playa, or anything to that nature. Some of my closest friends are playas or in training, and yes I have been on that side of the tracks before, and was quite good at it actually, but I grew up too. My selfish ways now get me a good bank account, a nice car to drive, soon my own place, and then maybe a good woman. But 3 out of four ain't bad. My heart is content and I'm happy. What you eat don't make me shit, just gives me gas... nothing but hot air.

On that note, I'll end this with whatever you do, you are your own future, don't allow anyone to steal your self worth, and do right by you and yours. You are only cheating yourself by being an asshole. If that's what you choose to be, then hey, do you, just don't bring it here, cause I will fucking kill you out of principle alone. I said stop killing each other over OPP, not blatant ignorance.

Now, let me shout out The Firm, 413, 617, 508, 203, my extended family in Philly, Boston, and New York, to The 5 Elements, *K, A-Clipse, Joe (when can i see my neice dog?) Angelica at work, Big Tone for my haircut, Moe, Slim, my break bread cats, the dude who gave me the free fries at McDonalds, and all the employees at Express who for some reason gives me a discount when I shop for friends of mine.

RIP to the Shepard twins (pointless death is the worse, much love to your mom and dad), RIP to Kev (another one young and missed), Alex (you got off lucky, just remember the streets are still watching).

Im out like Bobby Brown
-The Champ