While The Champ’s Away…..

Loyalty…

Where are you on that issue? I mean, what does it mean to you. Let’s be honest, everyone dislikes disloyal people. So then why is there disloyalty? I think one of the basic tenets of loyalty is honesty. Not the “I’m keeping it real so I can say whatever I want without regard for your feelings” honesty; but the I’m saying or thinking this because I really care about you …not I care about you but I’m throwing verbal shots below the belt, but I care about you so I’m speaking softly because I really want YOU to hear and understand what I’m saying…to you. Not the entire world.

Real talk. If your man caught a charge and he had to go away for, say seven years; do you consider it loyal to try to get with his chick because you know it’s only a matter of time until a replacement killer steps in and you’d rather she give it to you than somebody else because you won’t dog her. I mean in your mind, you’re trying to look out, right ? Or say, your friend gets bagged for whatever and she has to fall back for a minute, now you know you always wished her man had hollered at you instead of her, so what do you do? You push up on him, and the rest is history. Conventional thinking suggests that there’s something fundamentally wrong with both pictures, however these two situations began with totally opposite motivations, but the end result is the same: You banging your people’s peoples. But both these people are being loyal. He thinks he’s loyal to his man, because he’s stepping in and trying to prevent her from getting too dirty by messing with him and/or him and/or him. And shorty that’s banging her girl’s man is thinking she’s being loyal to herself because she’s doing her.

Which bring us to the next episode. Selflessness. Loyalty is not, I’m doing this because I want to….it’s I’m doing this so the person or entity to whom I’m loyal won’t have to…whatever the case might be. It’s so easy to lose our honesty and lack of selfishness by being selfish and dishonest. We might think we’re doing something for the other person to “help them” when in reality we’re doing it because of how we feel about whatever it is. Your peoples might live in the PJs, and you run em down the line about how they need to ascend above that, and you want better for them and yadayadayada. When in reality the basis is you thinking somebody might press you one day when you go to check your peoples, or you dealing with someone who’s from a more sterile demographic and you’re trying to be pristine for them.

While honesty, and selflessness are essential in being loyal to others, I think if these are missing when dealing with ourselves then the whole concept of loyalty is lost. How can we honestly express our loyalty and selflessness to someone else when our truth is juxtaposed by what we feel within and the opposing action?

Thumper, I know by the time your vacation ends you might be in for a name change …something beginning with Oh…:}
K*, I’m too friggin proud of you, please know that.
Pres* & D* in Iraq (not around K*’s way) please get home safely, can you say Village to Midtown, on foot, eating, laughing, talking the whole way….